How Can I Become Detached?
The detachment enables you to remain unaffected by the changing, and temporary nature of the world. However, trying to become detached can be a struggle, which may give rise to frustration, delusion, sadness, wrong knowledge, and anger in you. So, instead of trying to become detached try to remain unaffected. How much you get affected it is in your control. With abhyasa you can become better at it. A constant reminder and acceptance of this reality that ‘all is changing and is temporary’ would help you in becoming less and less affected by your attachments, and surely you will find yourself getting established in true vairagya (dispassion).
Receiving Knowledge Properly
A flower is beautiful and fragrant, but you may only be able to see its beauty, and not smell its fragrance if your nose is plugged.
The knowledge also has beautiful words, and its true essence. If your mind is plugged, you will hear only the beautiful words, and not catch the essence. The essence of knowledge cannot flow through a plugged mind. Your ego, rigid concepts, judgements, and doubts etc plug your mind. Humbleness, thirst for the knowledge, and respect for the knowledge and the giver of the knowledge are essential for unplugging the mind.
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. – Proverbs 11:2.
There are various flavours of Spiritual Awakening. The flavour of Kabir’s awakening is very special and rare. One cannot become Kabir by any amount of penance and practices. Kabir can only be born Kabir.
Kabir was a true mystic Fakir, a true Sufi, totally and always absorbed in God’s presence. He says, ” I like being a fakir. No riches can give me the joy which I receive by singing His name.”
Kabir is mostly referred to as Saint Kabir or Bhagat (devottee) Kabir. But any title you give Him, it looks very small on Him. It limits Him. Kabir was limitless and much bigger than any title.
His upbringing was influenced by both Hindu and Muslim families, but His teachings pointed toward one God. He had followers from both religions. both tried to claim Him as their own, and in that process many of His stories and His real image have been altered, but He said He either belonged to all or none.
There is a story that when He died, His Hindu and Muslim followers wanted to perform the last rituals according to their own beliefs, and were quarrelling over it. That night Kabir appeared in everyone’s dream and said to them,” All my life I tried to tell you that I am neither a Hindu nor a Muslim , but the moment I am gone, you have begun to quarrel over it. You can divide my body into two halves, you each take one half and do whatever with it as you please.” Next morning when the followers discovered that they all had the same dream, they felt very ashamed, and to ask for forgiveness they went to the place where Kabir’s body was lying. But to their surprise and shock, Kabir’s body was not there anymore. It had mystically disappeared. Instead, there were two separate piles of flowers laying on the floor. Hindus took one pile, and Muslims took the other, and did the last rituals according to their own beliefs. Sadly, they still didn’t understand Kabir. They couldn’t combine the two piles into one.
Kabir shared His wisdom and experiences only through poetry, His poetry came from a deep layer of Consciousness, and not from the intellect. He neither read Scriptures nor spoke about them, but all His songs contain the essence of all Scriptures. He warned people that misunderstanding of Scriptures could misguide them. Even in Bhagvad Gita, Lord Krishna says that people can become overly influenced by the flowery language of Scriptures.
Kabir says, “Why to read Scriptures when all can happen just by singing His name.”
Kabir was very simple,. He lived a very simple life. He worked as a weaver, and had a family. His needs were very few, and His desires were none. His prayer was simple. In one of his couplets He prays,” O God, kindly give me this much that my family does not remain hungry, and anyone who visits me doesn’t go hungry from my door.”
Kabir didn’t need to pray. One who is in total oneness with God cannot pray. Kabir’s one-
time prayer was only a message for all: ‘Do your effort, and pray only for your need, not greed’.
His path to God was also simple. He says, “Singing and dancing I go to my God.”
His path was not a journey from point a to point b. Instead, it was a path of total oneness each moment. He says,” If my Beloved were far away, I would write to Him. But He is in my body, mind, and eyes, what’s the need to send any message!”
In another song He says ” What is the need for me to go for a pilgrimage when God and all pilgrimages reside in my heart!”
.Kabir spoke against getting stuck in rigid religious rituals, for which He was threatened by both Hindus and Muslims, but He was fearless, and remained unaffected. He shared His wisdom, but remain unconcerned if people didn’t follow it. He says, “I am neither a friend nor an enemy to anyone. I wish everyone well.”
Kabir lived in the world without actually living in it. He saw without actually seeing. He heard without actually hearing. The Kabir that I know never died. Once born, Kabir never dies. He is here. He has been my inspiration and guide all my life. Filled with gratitude and oneness, my heart keeps bowing to Him.