ED in Young Men, and Yoga

 

 

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Last year during one of my courses, a young man, 29,  who was suffering from ED asked me if there were any yogic practices that could help his condition.  

ED is considered a normal  condition in older people, but in young men it is not.
There are many factors such as stress, lack of interest in sex, smoking, drug and alcohol usage, and poor health etc. that can contribute to ED.
However, lately another major factor has been identified.

When this young man asked me for an advice, I remembered reading an article which stated that the ED in young men had been linked to the watching of porn frequently and that’s why, the number of young men who were asking their doctors  for a pill was on the rise. So I asked him if  he had been watching porn.  He said ‘yes’.  He looked embarrassed. 

Porn is not normal sex. Instead, it is the most disgusting, degrading, low, disgraceful, and vulgar display of unrealistic sex.  Sadly, it is so widespread and so readily available that over a billion people, including children as young as five, watch porn online at any given time. 

Watching porn dulls your brain and distorts your thinking. Your brain and mind get so conditioned to the unnatural acts of sex that the normal sex looses its charm, and it no longer stimulates you, and thus the ED.
But the consequences of watching porn are not limited to ED. It affects your physical and mental wellbeing. It can ruin relationships. It lowers your enthusiasm, self-esteem, and interest in life. The list can go on… 

I explained this to him, and recommended that he stopped watching porn. He said he would.

After six months he came again to a course I was teaching. He thanked me. He was happy. He looked more confident. 

The regular practice of yoga enhances and improves all functions of the body including sexual.
The Kegel exercises, which actually originate from tantric yogic practices, are very helpful both for men and women to enhance sexual function, stabilize pelvic floor, and improve overactive bladder. You can search for Kegel exercises online. <3

 

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Shiva Lingam and Yoni, Sacred Stones

 

Sex and food are the two oldest instincts in all forms of life for renewal, survival, and pleasure. 

From yogic point of view, sex is sacred. The Sacred Stones of Shiva Lingam and Yoni, worshiped in Hindu Temples and households, represent the Cosmic male and female creative energy which is necessary for renewal of life. 

Yoga is not against sex. Yoga encourages sacredness, respect, and honour between partners. However, yoga does warn against over-indulgence in sex.  <3 <3

 

Being Free from Anger Continued…

 

 

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Malaysia 2017

Just finished two courses in Penang, Malaysia  with over  250 participants in each course. If you want to experience sincerity and innocence at their best, then you must attend  a course with these participants.  Thank you all. I learnt a lot from you. Missing you already.  <3

 

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This was the team of volunteers led by Zok and her husband Akanda on the left. They know how to organize a perfect course, with perfection in every thing from A to Z., all done with a smile. Thank you all. You are very special. <3

 

 

Freedom From Anger

Anger can be a useful tool when used with awareness and a purpose. However, most of the anger is useless and harmful. Remembering and practicing the following may be helpful.

Others are not responsible for your anger

When you are angry, mostly it is because of the accumulated anger that is already present in you. The external factors are just being a catalyst for stirring that pre-existing anger in you. By blaming situations and others, you only solidify the anger in you.

Your own desires, ego, greed, attachments, and jealousy are the root-causes of your anger.

Accept the realities of life

Some of which are:

Situations will continue to come in life which you don’t want or don’t like. You have no control over them.

Certain people will behave in a manner or do things which you may not like or agree with, or which may even cause pain to you. This is inevitable. 

You want only to gain and succeed in life, but the reality is that you will experience loss and failure also. 

Everything in life changes. When the change is inevitable, then why should you get angry and upset when it happens?

Similarly, there are many other realities of life which you must realize and accept.

Do whatever you can do to make things better but, in most situations, being angry is not the way.

Be with the anger

When angry, or faced with anger from others, remember that the situation is only a trigger, and take your attention away from the situation to your inner-being.
Observe the feeling and emotions arising within you without any judgements, questions, and blame.
Emotions that arise from anger are like the smoke that arises from the fire. Observing is like opening the windows to let the smoke out. Questioning and blaming is like inhaling the harmful smoke with the windows closed.

Take any needed action only when your inside has cooled down. Your action then will be much more meaningful and productive.

This way, instead of accumulating more, you will be able to erase some of the pre-existing anger.

Transform your anger into compassion

When you are feeling hurt and angry, at that time it can be helpful to remember that at times you also sometimes hurt others by your behavior and actions.
When someone is angry at you, especially if it is someone who loves you, or someone who has done good things for you in the past, accept their anger by remembering the good things, and your love for each other.
This practice of remembering at the right time will help you in transforming your anger into acceptance and compassion, which is soothing to the inner-being. With time and practice you will become better at it.
Just as, adding some yogurt to the milk turns all of that milk into yogurt, same way, adding some compassion to the anger turns all anger into compassion.

Laugh daily

The saying  ‘laughter is the best medicine’ is very true. But there is a proper way in which it should be done.
With a willingness to let go of the daily events, which irritate you and make you angry, fill your heart with compassion and love for yourself and others, especially those who may have hurt you, then laugh, and laugh more. Let your laughter carry compassion toward all.  Let the laughter come from your heart and allow your whole body to shake. Do this twice daily regularly, and in addition, laugh as soon as you can after an incident of anger. It is hard to laugh when your heart is heavy, but this is the best way to come out of heaviness.

Make laughing a part of your sadhana. It will bring comfort to your inner-being, and also improve your physical health.

 

Do the above for six months, you will notice a big reduction in the intensity and duration of your anger.
Do it for six years, your anger will be transformed into compassion, like the compassion of a yogi. <3 <3

 

 

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I Wish You A Merry Christmas

 

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All bathe in God’s love, but one who acknowledges it shines among all. 

 

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 In Master’s presence you can experience God’s love and protection.  Being with Master is being with God.

 

That whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.  John 3:16

That ‘Him’ is not one, He is all. There is not a single particle that is not Him. There is not a single you that is not Him. Celebrating all is the true spirit of Christmas. <3

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Love each one

In such a way

That they all say

They are the most loved

That’s how God loves

He is the greatest Beloved <3

 

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